When one gets married, you always hope and believe that it’s a love to last forever.
But many things happen and change after the “I do”. You have to earn a living, provide your family with a decent and comfortable life, deal with a variety of issues within you. Good and bad influences around you could affect you as an individual. You are also growing as a person. You are still learning and evolving. It’s good if the two of you grow together, not grow apart. A lot of couples grow apart. Some outgrow one another.
And of course the temptations that threaten to destroy you as a person and as a husband / wife abound. Some couples seek it. I mean they court temptation and don’t survive it. Others avoid it but eventually succumb to it.
I cannot imagine the danger posed to couples nowadays. Even if you’re already within the confines of your own bedroom, your spouse could be flirting with another man or woman thru his / her phone. Nung araw wala yan and yet many marriages failed. What more in this age and time.
Many couples stay together till the end but it doesn’t mean they are happy together. It doesn’t mean they are still in love with each other. Try asking your spouse if he/she is still in love with you. The answer is most likely no but he/she would be too polite to accept it, in your face.
In many instances, married couples are no longer in love with each other, they are just committed to their marriage. They don’t make the effort to stay in love. Yes, after many years of being together, it’s easy to forget that you are once madly in love with this person.
Many couples stay together only because they have kids. Or are just lazy to move out of their comfort zones. The best thing that could happen to a married couple is they stay married and together because they want to, because they love to, because their relationship is deeper than any blow to their vows. They have a strong foundation that started with true love sealed with their faith in God. They stay together not because marriage obligates them to but because they truly love, care, appreciate each other and enjoy being together and want to be together forever. Because they are still in love. They remain faithful to one another by choice.
Here’s to love and life,
