This sounds romantic in a not so romantic way.
This is on the presumption that your boyfriend used to be in love with you. Tapos ngayon hindi ka na nya love. Hindi na sya kilig or in love sa’yo.
It’s difficult for me to tell you exactly what to do because I don’t know the whole story. If I asked about every detail of your relationship, we might never finish.
I will give this advice based on a general scenario:
Let’s say the two of you were really in love with each other and had spent a significant time together in a romantic and loving relationship.
Should you fight for him?
That takes courage and determination.
If you succeed, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’ll be yours forever. If you don’t, at least you’ll know you gave it your all. You won’t have to live with the regret of not trying. You will not blame yourself.
I’ve seen women who fought hard for the men they loved. They eventually got married, had children, and even grandchildren. But throughout their marriage, they endured countless heartbreaks because their husbands kept chasing other women. Yes, they stayed together—but not without pain.
I’ve also known someone who fought for a married man who wanted to end their affair. She refused to let go, followed him everywhere, and even threatened to throw herself down the stairs if he left her. To this day, she’s still the unhappy mistress.
As for me, if I were in your situation, I wouldn’t fight for him.
That’s not because I’d be giving up. It’s simply who I am.
I don’t want to force someone to stay with me. If he’s with me, I want him to be there because he genuinely wants to be—not because he feels obligated. If he is with me, it’s because he truly wants to be with me and is happy with me. Ayaw ko yung napipilitan lang.
I’d rather endure nights of crying than spend a lifetime wondering whether the man beside me truly loves me.
But that’s me. What’s good for me may not be applicable to you.
So follow your heart. Whatever you decide, accept the outcome without regrets. Cry if you must. Let yourself grieve. But after you’ve shed all the tears you need to, wipe your eyes and move forward.
A new and exciting chapter of your life awaits——- even if he’s no longer part of it.
Remember, you’ll always have yourself: young, beautiful, strong, and the amazing you.
He doesn’t love you anymore? Then love yourself. You have you.
