Pam and Rhea ‘s comments are spot on. I want to share them with all mothers out there:
Pamela Wann says:
Ms Annie.. Pls don’t be too harsh on urself.. Mothers will always be Mothers to their children, no matter how old they may get.. When things seem difficult for our kids, we, as Moms, tend to question ourselves : HAVE I RAISED THEM WELL ENOUGH? HAVE I TAUGHT THEM THE PROPER TECHNIQUES ON HOW TO CONQUER THEIR OWN FEARS AND OVERCOME WHATEVER OBSTACLE THEY MAY FACE IN LIFE?
Yes, Ms Annie.. Sometimes, a MOTHER’S LOVE will never be enough to protect them.. But we, as Moms, have already raised them well enough to KNOW the DIFFERENCE between RIGHT and WRONG.. It all comes down to the kind of CHOICES that our children will make in their lives..
Choices which at first may seem right for them, only to find out in the end that the very same choices they made are the ones that would lead them to their own downfall..
Life is already tough enough for us parents.. But it gets tougher for our kids as they grow older..
Sadly, we cannot always be there to PROTECT them from the dangers that lurk in the outside world.. They, as young adults, will have to learn from their own mistakes, to boldly face each problem that they may encounter in their everyday lives, and to learn to rise above it all with their dignity intact..
We are all living on borrowed time, and we have to make the BEST and the MOST of this life that we were given..
YOU HAVE RAISED UR CHILDREN WELL, Ms Annie.. Your UNCONDITIONAL LOVE for Oyen and Nyke are the BEST GIFTS u have given them..
They may sometimes lose their way, but they will ALWAYS FIND A WAY BACK INTO YOUR HEART.. ❣❣❣
God bless u and the family, Ms Annie.. Have a Merry Christmas.. ❣❣❣
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From Rhea
rhea lim says:
Hi Ms. Annie. I am a passive reader of your blog for more than a year now. Just cant help reacting to this post as I am a mother too and this is also my concern. Khalil Gibran’s writing on children is spot on and I want to share it with you.
And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, “Speak to us of Children.”
And he said:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
