Edmund hosted a welcome dinner for his elementary and high school classmates at the Richmonde Hotel last night. Each one of them were given the floor and microphone to share a little bit of their life story after they graduated from high school. Some shared a little some shared a lot. Some were funny some were sad.
There were failures and lots of successes too. Most are happily married while some are not so lucky. Some are content with their lives while a few are miserable. That’s life. That’s oh our buhay. But in general, practically all have a good life.
One sad story, actually it’s a very sad story is S’s. She is a battered wife.
She said she wanted to be a nun but fate would have it that she got married and bore 6 children. She never worked and just devoted her life caring for her family. She kept on saying “I am just a housewife”. Malas sa lahat ng malas, she has an abusive husband. Tingin ko malakas ang tama sa utak ng husband nya.
She spoke in Ilonggo so I was only able to pick up bits and pieces of her life story. I knew it was sad because she was crying. She said there were several days and nights when she couldn’t sleep and eat, she just drank water and cried and cried.
According to her, her abusive husband is babaero, lasenggero, sugalero, nananakit pa. She once caught her husband having sex with one of their maids on the floor. She didn’t say or do anything. She just turned her back. My blood boiled after I heard that. Mila said she should have stepped on him. That’s too light a punishment. If that happened to me, I would pour boiling oil on them. I would make sure that maid would never see the light of day. And for that effing husband, I don’t know what I would do to him. I will send him to oblivion. Sa bahay ko pa? Ang daming motel at hotel dyan. Don’t do it in my house.
She wanted to commit suicide. Either that or her husband would kill her. She keeps a note daw in case something happens to her. Hay naku, kawawa naman si S. I could just imagine what she’s going through. Her classmates were advising her to get out of that situation, leave. But I think she would not be able to free herself unless someone from the outside helps her.
My personal advice to women—- never allow yourself to be in that miserable situation. Leave him. He doesn’t love and respect you. It’s not going to get any better. He will not change. If you stay and tolerate his misdeeds, he would do it again. He would think okay lang because you will never be able to leave him because you are financially dependent on him. Leave and live a life away from him. Free yourself. You are stronger than you think. You don’t need him. You can survive without him. You’d rather not have a husband than have someone who is a psychopath and treats you like trash.
