FB allows people to connect in an instant. It also serves to let families and friends know what we do, where we go, what we eat, who’s celebrating a birthday, who received a school medal, who received an award.
It’s a venue to announce couple’s love for each other. Proposals, engagements, weddings. And lovebirds professing their love and admiration for each other. It shows off our new dress, a gift, a nice pair of shoes, a new cellphone, bags, and other material belongings. People also proudly display photos of their new car, house, condo. In seconds people post amazing photos of their world travels. Places that most people could only imagine.
Even if I have basically travelled dozens of cities I still marvel at the beautiful photos I see and sometimes I wonder, I’ve been to that city but how come I have never seen that plaza or park or museum?
With all the overload of announcements and pieces of information, we see on FB with a flick of our fingers, comes the bad side too.
On the other side of the spectrum, those photos may bring a sense of negativity such as pity, envy, jealousy. Seeing that other people live a better life than ours may illicit some jealousy. “Buti pa sila. Buti pa sya. Balang araw pupunta rin ako dyan or bibili rin ako ng Louis Vuitton”.
When couples profess love for each other on FB with a photo showing how sweet they are, those couples who are unhappily married may become more unhappy. Wives of philandering husbands could be gripped with unhappiness and regret.
I will use my life as a perfect example. A friend of mine told me two weeks ago that Edmund and I are so perfect together. Syempre I only post photos when we are eating, making pasyal. I don’t show photos when I am trying to bugbog him or when he was trying to strangle me. I told her, nanay ko po, we always fight. True. As we get older, the more frequent we argue. When I was younger, I just ignored the things he said. Now, lahat ng sinasabi nya, pinapatulan ko. “What did you say? Why did you say that? I disagree with what you just said. I don’t think so”. Lahat kinokontra ko. And he’s like that to me too. When we were younger, he just ignored me too. Ngayon iba na, wala na kaming pasensya sa isa’t isa. But we don’t take photos in the middle of our arguments for posting on Oh My Buhay.
Let the photos or posts we see on FB or social media serve as an inspiration to us. Or take them as mere entertainment. Do not let what you see affect you in a negative way. People only post nice photos, happy family togetherness. Couples don’t take selfies while they are yelling at each other. They don’t stop in the middle of a heated argument to pose for a nice photo showing their expanded tonsils and clenched fists.
Don’t let Facebook make you depressed. Be content with your own life. Try.
