One of the causes of tension between couples who are living in America or abroad, with no household helpers, is sharing in the cleaning of toilets, emptying the garbage, babysitting, dish washing, laba mo laba ko, etc.
I have oh my buhay readers (apologies for delayed response) who are inis na sa kanilang mga asawa because the women do practically everything. And they have full time jobs. Some are even nursing their babies. This could also be happening to some men, but syempre hindi naman gaanong vocal ang mga guys. I don’t mean the nursing of babies. Ibig kong sabihin, merong mga babae rin na walang hilig mag-asikaso sa bahay.
Talk, talk, talk. Discuss the situation and tell him frankly what you want. Suggest how you want to divide the household chores. Make requests for him to do some specific chores. Don’t say, “hindi mo na ako tinutulungan dito sa bahay”. Tell him, “pwede bang ikaw na ang magtapon ng basura at magpukpuk ng mga daga?” “Okay lang ba kung ikaw na rin ang magpaligo sa akin at magluto ng umagahan?”
Never entertain the thought that you earn more than he does. Bawal yan. Don’t say “magkano ba ang kinikita mo ha, at dito ka na lang sa bahay kesa magbabayad pa tayo sa babysitter or caregiver”.
Communication. We all know this but we don’t practice because we’re too proud to openly communicate. Maybe we can start now and see how things go. I hope for the better.
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After dinner,
Husband———- Darling, the therapist said we have to add spice into our s e x life.
Wife————- Okay. Like what? How?
Husband———- He said we should change positions.
Wife————- That’s easy.
Husband got so excited—- “Really?”
Wife———— Why don’t we start now? I will sit down and watch tv while you stand and do the dishes.
In bed,
Husband——— Darling, the therapist said it would be exciting if you talk dirty while we make love.
Wife———— Talk dirty? Of all means, if that would help in our relationship.
While making love,
Husband——— Talk dirty to me.
Wife———— Dirty? Okay, ang dami long labada, tambak pa ang maruruming plato, lilinisin ko pa ang toilet, huhugasan ko pa ang pwit ng anak mo.
