I don’t have a template on how to be the best wife. I am so insanely unique and I don’t want to be judged by one single mistake or by how understanding I am in letting him be. I would be going from one to 10 depending on a situation.
My husband had a lot of failed expectations. Just last year he told me how he wished I was like the wives of his friends. I didn’t comment. I didn’t ask ano ba ang mga kulang ko. Ano ba sila? I told him isa-isahin namin. I wanted to know in detail. What made him wish I were like them. Ang swerte ng friends nya, ang malas pala nya. For him to compare me with the asawa of his friends was insulting and demeaning. Actually nakakakulo ng dugo. When I asked him after a few months, he didn’t remember saying that. How convenient. That’s what I was saying, dapat when there’s something that offended you, ask right away. Me, always delayed reaction. I should’ve asked him right there and then. How perfect were their wives? Mas maganda ba, less wrinkles kasi masipag maglagay ng moisturizer, kasing edad ba ni Ariana Grande, kasing sexy ba ni Beyonce, magaling magluto gaya ni Margarita Fores, kasing tangkad ba ni Bea Alonzo, kasing talino ba ni Kris Aquino, o kasing alluring ba ni Jennifer Lopez? Marunong bang mag-golf, manahi ng mga butas na salawal, naka pustiso ba, kumikislap ba ang mga mata dahil asul ang contact lenses, mahilig bang pumunta sa beauty parlor, at nag-e-exercise kaya maliit ang bewang. Hindi ako yan and I offer no apologies.
As a wife, I allowed my husband to flourish as a person, as an individual. I didn’t want to see him unhappy. I never c0mpeted with him. I never restricted him to do the things he wanted to do. I was 100% supportive of his success and happiness. I wanted him to enjoy the fruits of his labor and spend his life being content with himself for what he is and for what he has.
Even in moments of deep sadness, I don’t remember wishing that my husband would be like the husbands of my friends. To begin with, I don’t pay attention to other people’s husbands. It would be the height of insult and stupidity to compare my husband with other men. He is what he is.
He has pluses and minuses which makes him whole. He is such a good person and I would like to think that God gave him to me because he is deserving to be my husband. And I believe that he truly loves me that’s why I married him before and I married him now.
I hope he will not compare me with other women or other men’s wives again. I am what I am. Take me or leave me.
