After our board meeting, me and my co-directors stood for a few minutes in front of the village admin office talking about parenting in this new generation. The older ones were more conservative. “Basta hindi mabubuntis bago ikasal”. I answered, “okay lang yun, basta nasa edad na naman sila (30 years old)”. “New generation na ngayon, iba na ang panahon”.
My friend said “Annie, modern ka pala”. Eh siguro nga, never naman ako’ng naging conservative except 12 midnight is the curfew here.
I told someone not to press her daughter to confirm or deny whether “mag-boyfriend na sila nung boy”. Now adays, the boyfriend-girlfriend thing is only an affirmation of their VERBAL agreement na mag-boyfriend na sila. It has nothing to do with what they do together. Whether they sleep together, travel together, it doesn’t mean sila na nga. They can be effing each other the whole day but no commitment. Feel lang nila yun. Nung panahon ko, we became official on the day we kissed on the lips.
The title or label of being mag-boyfriend has also nothing to do with how they feel for each other. Not because they are officially on Facebook as a couple, doesn’t mean they are in-love and would want to take their relationship to the altar. They may like each other, or using each other for comfort, but we no longer can conclude that they are madly in love with each other. In fact, there have been many instances when they are in-love with someone else, not with the person they are officially “on”. Complicated ha.
Choices, options. That’s what complicate relationships. The way people live and communicate nowadays do not contribute to a sound and happy relationship, more so to a stable marriage that is made even stronger by the couple’s love and devotion to each other. There are too many distractions.
Baka habang kinakasal eh nagpe-facebook at nag te-text sa iba.
Those that have gotten married 2 years ago and more, marami na sa kanila eh nag-aaway na, hiwalay na, nagpa-pa annul na. Girls are now more independent, driven, outgoing. Wala na ngayong magti-tiis. They are quick to call it quits. Same with men, konting bagay lang, split na agad.
Ilan na lang kaya ang truly in-love? No more happily ever after.
