There’s a big difference between the words hearing and saying.
The difference is connected with our capacity to remember what we hear and what we say.
When someone is talking and we listen, what he said could be different from what we heard or what he thought he said or what we thought we heard. But there are people who remember words exactly as they were spoken.
The person who is talking or who said things may not remember exactly what he said or his memory might not serve him right. Or he himself was not paying serious attention to the words that he said so he couldn’t remember every word he said.
And why am I saying this? To make us humans be aware of what we say.
We have to be very careful in blurting words we don’t mean to come out of our mouth. It’s not an excuse to say “oh I just said that in jest, I didn’t mean it”. There is no truth to both. According to a psychologist from Stanford University Medical Center, and according to a psychologist from Harvard University, there is no such thing as “I am just joking, or I something said in jest, or I didn’t mean what I said”. They said we humans mean what we say at that very moment. So let’s be careful.
If we say things we don’t mean, not remember them because we just blurted out those words with no regard as to its effect on those who heard it, then words could be as sharp as swords. It may not kill people. Words may not tear a skin but sharp words could tear a person’s feelings and the damage could be irreversible. Wounds are created by thoughtless words uttered in total disregard for other people’s feelings, pride, and emotions.
This wounds may never heal and it would doubly hurt when one day the person who caused those wounds would say “I never said those words”.
Let us be mindful of what we say because those who heard it would remember forever.
