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To my basher Karren A.

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Karren A,

I don’t know who you are and what you do but someone told me yesterday that you were bashing me on Facebook and saying a lot of foul things about me. You and your Facebook friends are having a heydey posting nasty things about someone you clearly do not know.
You were probably the one who sent ohmybuhay this message on March 13, 2018. I just concluded maybe you own the brand Jukay and you were angered by my post.

—————————————————————————xxx “Jukaykay is a brand and it does not mean ukay ukay. We love this brand because they sell fashionable items without spending much. I know many rich people who love spending less on clothes. Sabi nga nila, nasa nagdadala. 🙂 by the way, i once saw a simple white dress that costs 8k+ and then i bought it right away”. xxx
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Kaya pala I noticed there was something in between the lines when you emphasized you bought a dress for 8k. Good for you. I am happy when people are able to afford what they want.

You were angered by my post about one time I went to the new Shang and was surprised to see there was a bazaar in the lobby. I understood the reason why Shangrila would hold a bazaar, to spark more interest and draw shoppers to their mall. You were the organizer daw of the bazaar so you were violently reacting and posting all those bad things about me. You and your friends posted below the belt comments. Hindi tayo magkakilala but your line of thinking and analysis of who I am based on my ohmybuhay posts give me a glimpse of who and what you are.

Let me comment on some:

1. Bazaars—- I used to organize the Exporters Fair in cooperation with the Philippine Exporters Confederation about 20 years ago. I also helped organized the Philippine Furniture Fair together with the Chamber of Furniture Industries of the Philippines long time ago. I enjoyed doing those for a couple of years till my interest shifted and I got busier with other things. I don’t belittle tiangge or flea markets. I support them. I love shopping in flea markets. I love buying old stuff.

2. Rich people also shop in bazaars.

Of course. Why shouldn’t they? People love a good bargain. Whether they belong to any letter in the alphabet.

3. Mayabang ako.——-

Whatever I say or do will be interpreted differently by different readers depending on their mentality. If I say I went to Greenhills and bought a basket for 500 pesos, those narrow minded and envious individuals could misinterpret that as “ang yabang naman kailangan pang sabihin na 500 pesos yung basket. Sya lang ba ang nakakabili nun?”
If I mention I am eating halo-halo at the lobby of Manila Peninsula, those who are less exposed would think “ang yabang naman, social climber, halo-halo lang sa Manila Peninsula pa kakain”. My friends would comment “An, masarap talaga ang halo-halo sa Pen”. See the big difference?

Maybe from less exposed strangers’ eyes I am mayabang because I post photos of we eating, shopping, travelling, having fun, but billions of people do that to. People nowadays like to share photos of their travels, shopping, food, a day on the beach, etc. When I see people posting photos of their escapades and gifts, I don’t find them mayabang. I see people posting photos of their nice houses and new cars. I’ve seen women posting photos of their new Louis Vuitton. I don’t find that mayabang. They are just excited to share their successes and what makes them happy too. If you find that mayabang, naku eh di billion billion ang mayabang sa buong mundo. I am not narrow-minded. I don’t judge people that way.

4. Ohmybuhay is first and foremost my personal diary but I share it with the public. Kasi sabi sa tv, the web daw is infinite. When you post something online, it would be there forever. I wanted to be able to keep my photos and thoughts for my future reference, and for my future apo sa tuhod so I made my blog public. My family also uses my blog as reference to remember where we were at certain times. It’s not to brag about my life. It just so happens that this is the kind of life that I have. What you see is what you get.

5. People who personally know me think I am not pretentious and they are able to detect that I exercise restraint in posting my other activities. But to strangers like you, maybe mayabang na yan. So there are two opposite perceptions. People think I post everything that I do. Nope, Nope Nope. You only see 10-20%. I wish I have the time and energy.

6. Tissue paper lang pala ang binibili ko sa abroad ipino-post ko pa, dito na lang ako magshopping——-

Hahahaha. Share ko ulit, I bought a pack of 4 toilet papers in London recently. Mayabang na naman yan. But that’s true. My friend Maymay ships boxes of toilet papers from the same store. I don’t find her mayabang. The two of us just happened to like the same toilet paper design. What’s wrong with that? My husband likes the 3 ply Sanicare toilet papers from Shopwise, I like something else. Gusto ko merong bulaklak na print. So anong masama dun? Some friends who came over to our house and used our powder room liked my toilet papers too. I gladly gave some of them a roll for their souvenir.

toilet papers, lavender cottage garden

Kaya nga puro toilet paper lang at plato ang ipinapakita ko dahil I don’t want to be the source of envy of other people. I only hope to influence others in a positive way and not to elicit envy. I don’t want others to feel bad. We all have our own way of life. God distributed blessings. We should not compare ourselves with the life of others.

7. Hindi naman ako tutoong mayaman—–

So what? Is that a sin? That’s my problem and not yours.

8. Hindi naman ako born rich—–

That kind of perception came from my Binangonan posts. I am not embarrassed at all about the town where I came from. That is very obvious in  my giving Binangonan prominence and importance in my stories. God put me there. Maraming tao dun medyo kapos ang buhay pero hindi lahat. Many have improved their lives and have built bigger houses in the barrio. Meron ding dati ng nakaka-angat at laging inuutangan at hindi binabayaran.

I never said I was born rich. But I cannot claim that I was born poor because I would be lying. All you people on earth who were born with a silver spoon please raise your hands.

9. Nagyayaman-yamanan lang——

I have never said or claimed na mayaman ako. That would make me squirm. Mahihiya ako sa sarili ko if I would say such things.

Ang dami na nangang nangutang sa akin para daw sa mga tindahan nila at maliit na negosyo tapos ayaw akong bayaran kasi daw mayaman naman ako (mga salbahe).

And how does one pretend to be mayaman? Kunwari sa Rustan’s nagsa-shopping? O manghihiram ng kotse ng iba, o magsa-shopping kunwari sa Shangrila Mall?
Papasok sa Chanel, magse-selfie lang pala but in reality she couldn’t afford to buy a Chanel? Or shop for nice clothes and pay in 24 months at zero interest? In America, some women buy branded clothes and leather goods, wear them to parties and to the office to show-off then return the merchandise to the stores the next day. That’s a good example of pretending to have money. I have never done that in my whole life and never will.

Why would I pretend to be rich? What benefit would it give me? For what? For whom? Anong purpose? Pa-impress? Sino ang gusto kong ma-impress? People I don’t know? My friends na mas mayaman? Maids ko?
Pang-Facebook? Pang Instagram? Pang blog? Ang babaw naman nyan. You can say the nastiest things about me but one thing for sure, I am not shallow. OMB is my diary. This is my life. What you see is what you get. If I will pretend to be someone that I am not, sino ang lolokohin ko, sarili ko? Susmaryosep.

11. Sa Rustan’s lang pala ako nagsa-shopping. Nagyayaman-yamanan.

Hahahaha. I like going to Rustan’s when I have extra time and energy, most especially in the housewares section. I go there maybe 4 x a year. I should go more often so I would feel rich.

12. P1,800 lang yung dress pinost pa.
I found this white linen dress with blue embroidery that looked like a barong Tagalog in Rustan’s Makati. I posted the selling price because I thought it would be useful to some of my readers in case they would be interested too to buy the dress. They would know it was not expensive at all. I thought I was helping promote the made in the Philippines dress. Mayabang na pala yun. Very shallow indeed.

13. Mas marami pang bansa ang narating ng mga ibang middle class kesa sa akin.

So what’s the problem? Did I ever say I’ve been to more countries than anyone else? I am not travelling to compete with anyone. Is today’s life’s fulfillment dependent on the number of places one has visited? Is that the measure of success? Ano yan pahabaan ng check sa bucket list? Bakeeeet? Wala akong bucket list. If other people have gone to more places then I am truly happy for them. That’s good. There is absolutely no relevance in my life if all the people in the world except me have been to Mount Kawakawa, Bohol, Palawan, Namibia, Zimbabwe, Haiti, Cuba, etc.

I am not competing with you or with anyone else when it comes to travelling. Hindi ako naiinggit sa ibang tao. At hindi rin ako nagba-byahe para inggitin ang ibang tao. I don’t compare my life with other people. I don’t travel to show off. I am just guessing you must be half my age so I have been traveling even before you were born.

14. Kawawa naman ako, malungkot ang buhay ko, ang yaman ko na tapos sad pa rin ang life ko…

O, akala ko ba hindi ako rich, bakit ngayon naman sabi nyo rich ako.

15. Sadness—- Just like everyone else, I have good days and bad days.

16. Bruha ako….. I agree.

17. If I am really beautiful, even if I wear a rag I would still look good, nasa nagdadala yan——

I agree. So?

18. Ang yabang ko I even have to mention “naiwan ko ang phone ko sa Explorer”.

If you go back to all my posts, I have always been careful not to mention the kind of vehicle that we use. If you will notice, I always refer to them as “car, vehicle, van” precisely because I don’t want strangers to think I am bragging. However, for the benefit of those who don’t know me yet, ahente po kami ng Ford that’s why I post, mention, and advertise on my blog once in a while so you would buy from us. It’s not being mayabang. It’s called marketing and promotion. So friends and foes, if you want to buy a car or pick-up truck, please go to Ford EDSA in Greenhills, Ford Cainta along Ortigas Avenue Extension near junction, and Makati Ford in Pasong Tamo Avenue near Home Depot, La Fuerza and Don Bosco. Buy from any of those Ford dealers.
That is called PLUGGING, not BRAGGING.

19. Ano kaya ang cellphone ko na naiwan sa Ford Explorer?
iPhone 7S na bago pero nagha-hang.

20. Ano kaya brand ng watch nya at bakit sa Rustan’s pa ang battery?
Oh well. I’ll show you when I see you.

21. Ano kaya brand ng watch nya? Hindi nya i-post at ipagmayabang na rin.

Hindi naman ako nagtitinda ng watch kaya ayaw kong i-promote sa blog ko.
If you happen to see me in person, feel free to approach and look at the watch I am wearing. You may criticize it in front of me but not on Facebook.

It’s very easy to say nasty words on social media. I invite you to come over to my office anytime and to blurt out all those offensive words about me. I think that would be more fun. Tell it to my face, nagyayaman-yamanan ka lang, social climber, pangit, sa Rustan’s ka lang pala nagsa-shopping, etc. Baka maaliw pa ako kesa mainis if you would say it to me in person.

It’s not what I say or do but it’s the meaning that readers give to my words. I have no control over how people judge me based on what they see and read on Oh My Buhay. You can interpret and dissect your judgement but attacking me in words that are really below the belt clearly shows more about you than who I am.

How you interpret my life and my kind of person depends on your mentality not mine. It depends on who you are not who I really am.

Please remember:

As long as hindi ako nakikitira sa bahay nyo, hindi ako nakikikain sa inyo,
hindi kayo ang nagpapasweldo kay Antonia at hindi kayo ang bumibili ng ingredients ng ulam naming tinola, hindi ako nanghihiram ng driver at kotse mo, hindi kayo ang bumibili ng mga toilet papers ko, what I do with my life is none of your business. As long as you are not the one working to pay for my lifestyle then to each his own.

And Ooops, I almost forgot, about my photo in front of a presidential plane. Someone commented “now we know how she became rich or where she got her money”. Meron daw nagsabi galing kay Duterte.

Hahaha. Oh my buhay. I will just say Amen.

#choosetobegood

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79 thoughts on “To my basher Karren A.”

  1. I can see the green monster rear it’s ugly head.Your hater is so jealous her head is spinning.Please continue living your fabulous life and let them eat cake.The best revenge is living well.

  2. there will always be people who will be judgmental, ignore , no point stooping to their level

  3. Very well said Annie! Sabi nga sa Tagalog, mamatay sila sa inggit !!! Keep doing tour blogs.

  4. OMB, you don’t owe anyone explanations.
    let these haters go green from envy.
    you are loved and you are an inspiration 🙂

  5. Very well said Annie! Sabi nga sa Tagalog, mamatay sila sa inggit !!! Keep doing tour blogs.

  6. Well said Annie. That’s what happens when envy overtakes people’s mind. They think they can malign people like she did and get away with it . In fact they are the one going down because of their ignorance . They should channel their energy to a better cause maybe they can get richer and will not envy you .

  7. Go Annie! The Annie I know and admire for 40 yrs. plus and never changed, that what you see is what you get.
    To the bashers, I call it very immature n very childish, needs to grow up!

  8. Dear An,
    They don’t know you personally. Yeah, you are right when you said, OMB is your Personal Diary at naging public na. I’ve told you many times that you inspire a lot of people esply. me and my long time close friends. Like, when we plan our reunion, we use OMB as our reference 🙂 (thank you!) Your blog is one of our medium of happiness and that’s sincere happiness – not shallow. You are not mayabang at mapagkunwari. I can attest to that. I just hope these people, they read all your blog posts (past and present) Mahirap kasi yun umaayon lang sa agos without comprehension.

    Ang daming matatapang sa Social media ngayon. This is my own opinion – Facebook and Twitter created monsters. We need to control ourselves, be more understanding, may malasakit sa kapwa. Iwasan natin ang “kuyog system”. Malungkot at mahirap maging bitter in life. Let’s do our best to be good. Karma will get us.

    An, your true and loyal friends / readers support you. Take care and God bless.
    Bess

  9. Dear Annie,
    Never mind the bashers. Just think of your legions of readers like me who really enjoy reading your posts

  10. hahahhaa this is so funny!! mga tao talaga, they are the reason why social media is now a haven for evil people!

  11. Yung everyday watch ni Ms. Annie na leather strap ay Patek Philippe ata, yayamanin ha ha ha ha ha

  12. As long as these people don’t hold the key to open
    my door, pay my bills etc. they can all go to hell. There will always be people who have nothing better to do with their lives, are miserable and all they do is look at the lives of others. They are so envious that it kills them. All they do is look at other people’s lives because facing their own is painful because they really have nothing!!

  13. We support and love your blog Mam Annie. Hayaan mo silang mamatay sa inggit.

  15. Buti nalang ms annie nagshare ka rin ng side mo ksi nakita ko rin post nya sa Fb gs2 ko rin mgcomment sa post nya ksi mga foul na nga mga sabi nla. Porke’t di ksi nila kilala kung mkajudge nmn sobra sobra na. Pls dont share my name ksi i know the grl who made the post di ko lng sya maconfront.

  16. Mamatay sila sa inggit! 🙂

    I’ve been reading your blog for quite a while now. All the things you said from 1-21 was just like a recap of everything I have read so far. And to be honest, wala akong nakitang offense or yabang even just a bit. Kasi if ever i see one, ako mismo ang titigil sa pagbabasa dito. i hate mayabang and pretentious people too. Kaya if ever i felt in the past that you are one, id read something else.

    Yung mga comments nya e halata na hindi sya regular reader ng OMB.

    OMB is obviously an online journal. Your blog, your terms, your content. What we see is what we get. Kanya kanya na lang ng interpretation. Pero ang bottom line is.. Wala kaming karapatang magreklamo kasi nakikibasa lang kami! Period.

    And to KARREN A.. F*ck off! Stay away from Ms. Annie! Devote your time in making your bazaars better. Sa Dami ng oras mo manira ng ibang tao, baka mapabayaan mo na ang sarili mong negosyo. isa ka lang na hater compared sa amin na mga “fans” hehe.. Manginig ka sa inggit!

    Sige ka KARREN.. Pag hindi ka pa tumigil.. Humanda ka.. Meron kaming kilalang MANGKUKULAM!!!! (wink wink) Hahaha..

    To Ms. Annie, don’t mind her. This just proves na sikat ka na talaga. Meron ka ng basher! 🙂

    Take care po and Godbless! 🙂

  17. hay mama don’t let her get to you. It’s hard because strangers on the internet can be hurtful and say some really terrible things when they are acting like keyboard warriors. I felt upset rin when I read the post but I felt it was the comments and her friends that said some really foul things. Hay nako. The one that pissed me off the most was when Karren A. posted the picture of you outside the presidential plane and said “baka kaya mayaman.” It angers me to think what she is hinting at pero i’m trying not to think about it too much. I guess it is easier for people to believe that money is obtained through shady means than through legitimate hard work.

    I would like to believe that this girl is, despite her post and her ugly comments, i’d like to think she’s not an ugly person (in and out). I am sure if she let rationality take over, she would not have said the things she said nor slandered you on the internet. I’m sure if we met her in real life, in a different setting, she’s quite nice. I don’t know, I’m just thinking positive. I’m sure all of the commenters are nice people. Manila is very small. Maybe we’ll run into some of them (in Shangri-la) and maybe they will have the courage to say those same things they said to our faces.

    Lastly, Karren A – kindly relay to one of your other commenters si Ethel T. A. – I wish nanalo kami ng lotto! 🙂 Since we are not this lucky, we have to make money through lots of hard work, long nights, sacrifice, pain, mistakes, failure, blessings, tears, laughs, sweat, lessons learned and lastly, by prayer.

    1. x x x I’m sure if we met her in real life x x x

      If we ‘met’ her? Will that be in the past or in the future?

      1. Nice try, weirdo. There’s nothing wrong with what I said.

        “If we meet her” (this is what you are trying to insist is correct)
        If we met her (this is what I said and what I stand by)

        For reference sentences beginning with “What if” or in my case, I used just “IF”, implies a hypothesis, assumption, or condition, which doesn’t reflect the current reality, hence my usage of “met” and not “meet.”

        I was following the rule of the conditional clause in which the verb used will be in the simple Past.

        Mag-aral muna ng english before magmarunong ok?

        1. There is no necessity for you to unpack your heart with words…like a whore. There is a very popular Beetles song which is ‘If I Fell’. It falls on the same category as that conditional clause. Do not be presumptuous. Nowhere in it that I insist. I just asked a question. You know Julienne sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

          It is your mother whom you should teach. Like on giving citation or credit. One time she wrote as title “No Smoking Ban”. After I pointed to her the error, she changed it to the correct “No Smoking Law”. That is without giving any credit.

          1. x x x Beetles x x x

            Will that be the insect or a band? Mind you, neither one a credible source for grammatical correctness 🙂

          2. aka Reviewer who lives at the border of Marikina and Antipolo, I revised the title FOR BREVITY because some readers didn’t get it.

      2. Oh isa pa to!

        Hi Reviewer,
        Please continue posting your comments on Ms.Anne’s blog. Aliw ka din eh. Haha. Halatang may inggit sa life. Pakiss nga!!!!

    2. Hi Anak, There are people who will always try to find fault in us because that makes them feel good. It’s okay to point out other people’s mistakes objectively but the manner aka reviewer does it is condescending but that’s what he/she is. It makes him feel superior than others that way.

  21. Sumakit ulo ko kagabi after ko mabasa ang tungkol sa basher na ito. Ang dami ko gusto sabihin pero wag nalang. Isa nalang Kung ako mkakapunta ng London bibile rin ako ng toilet paper at bibigyan Kita mam baka ubos na stock mo. Hahahaha

  22. Blogbuster post, OMB! That’s bad news, & figuratively speaking, it sells!

    Bashers & bullys are the most vindictive, jealous people in the world! Must be because of their background, where they came from, or their current lifestyle…

    I wish to know this Karren person’s side of story rather than what that “someone” had said to you… Better yet, let’s invite her to lunch, or coffee! ;-p

    1. Hi mS, Thanks for your comment.
      Sorry, I don’t want to invite her to lunch or coffee. Baka dumami bashers ko if I will invite every basher over. (laughs). Tayo na lang dalawa.
      By the way, my husband and I went on a road trip today and we drove by Nanay Cirilas Filipino Restaurant in Tagaytay.

  25. I have a feeling Karen A that OMB wears a blue (her fave colour) Patek Philippe wrist watch but she never wrote about it in her blog but I think I read in one of her entries that she had a Seiko watch bought from Ongpin that she cherished which was a gift from her Dad. It melt my heart because OMB among other things, spreads or shares love from a daughter, from a mother, and even fr a private citizen by encouraging people to be good to others.

  26. Hi Ms Annie. I love your blog since 2013 or 2014. And I never find any of your posts “mayabang” nasa nagbabasa lang talaga how they take it. I find your posts sometimes funny but mostly inspiring. Weird that these people find it mayabang kasi I really think you are very down to earth. Since I read your blog, you became one of my life pegs that’s why I concentrated in our family business. I told my self that one day I’ll be like you, a successful businesswoman.

    And btw, sikat ka na Ms Annie. Hihihi. May bashers ka na. Haha. Wala naman ganun dati. Just kidding.

    Dont mind them, Ms. Annie. These are people who posts on social medias to make yabang. That’s why they think ganun din yung ibang tao. 🙂

  27. “She’s elegant,very classy, legit.”Per our friend from Brentwood, Ca….on a personal note, she’s charitable & from prominent family too.

  28. Hi Annie, they just dont know the real “you”…if someone say nasty things about me, i just say God bless u..deadma..i always remember Karma is just around the corner.in other words, Padayon ! ( ilonggo word for ” go on with what you’re doing “)

  29. Your bashers are real snakes! Ni hindi po sila maka-post ng comment na hindi nakatago sa ibang identity tulad ni Reviewer aka Karren A and friends! Grow up people! Lumiliit ang mundo ng mga taong hindi nag-iisip at naninira ng kapwa! Mas masaya ang mga taong malawak ang pag-iisip kaysa mga makikitid.

  30. Hi sorry i forgot to type my name after i commented..im the one with the anonymous email today..thanks

  31. Read many of your articles & i like those…this one is enjoyable Why?…because you handled her in a sophisticated manner otherwise other person may raise this up as cyber bullying…maybe she doesn’t know about that…
    With your Article ms Annie C. Tan-Yee kabahan na sya!!!
    Feature Article mo tuloy sya…i enjoy reading… Aral sana sa kanya!!!yow!❤

  32. Hi Ms Annie! I was so heartbroken to know that the trolls (at yung hindi mga cute kind ha!) have already found you. I have been reading your blog for years but i never commented in any of them until now.

    What i want you know is that hindi pagyayabang ang nakikita ko sa blog ninyo. I see a mother who loves her family so much and that she’s proud of them no matter what. Syempre super bonus na yung travel and chismis bits!

    What i fear is that baka hindi nyo na ituloy mag blog kasi dagdag stress pa itong mga salot sa social media na ito. It is true that the internet created a lot of monsters. Bakit ba kasi naging affordable naman sobra? Joke lang po.

    Basta Ms Annie…you bring a bit of sunshine to my day whenever i read your posts and I count that as one of my blessings. Warmest regards to you and your family.

  33. Hi Annie! It was year 2014 when I get to know you blog accidentally. From then on, I take my breakfast every morning together by reading your blog to start my day. I do not find any kayabangan from any of your post. I can always relate to you. Travel, adventures, pain, happiness, problems, family, wisdom in life are the things I learned from you. Keep blogging. You are an inspiration to all of your followers.

  34. Nakakatuwa ang basher mo.. sana she’ll get the chance to meet you ….baka sakali na marealize nya na …. O MY BUHAY nga ang title di ba …. 😉

  36. well ms annie ive known you because i am a reader for quite a long time already and all i can say to whoever is bashing you, ingit lang sila, kse you are a genuine person and someone who is real is not afraid to show her insecurities. smile ka lang, mas madame ka pinapasaya sa pagiging totoo mo!

  37. I truly love reading ur blog Maam kc po i can’t afford to travel so just by looking at ur pics, prang nkarating na rin ako dun! Tsaka very informative ung mga posts. At least we’ll know ganun pala dun or un pla ung cost pag kumain ka s resto na yun. Stuff like that.
    Keep on posting Maam! Mas marami po kaming natutuwa sa mga posts nyo kesa sa mga nega..

  38. I was back reading your old posts and I came across this. This is my favorite,very entertaining and witty ang mga sagot mo. This is the exact reason why I keep reading your blogs- very real. It does not matter kung kumain ka sa palengke or sa Michelin restaurant or bumili ka ng ‘step in” sa Hermes or tiangge 🙂 You just tell it as it is, and you shouldn’t be judged for it. Do not mind the bashers, sabi nga nila, Bashers are closeted fans 🙂 so post away!

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