It’s true that a family is the foundation of our society. It’s the core that keeps us whole as a person. Our family is our rock. It’s our HOME. Home is not the structure that keeps our head dry and protects us from sunlight. It’s what’s inside that structure of a house. Our home is composed of the people who live there that we love and love us back. They keep us grounded, they are our support system. They give us purpose. To borrow a phrase from a song by Bette Midler, they are the wind beneath our wings.
When a family breaks apart, the very foundation of our being weakens.
What do you do if your HOME is gone?
Find another anchor. God, a higher being and yourself.
When everything seems to be falling apart, when you no longer have your spouse in your house, your children have gone their separate ways, when you no longer have a HOME to come home to, God will be there to give you strength. Make him your new anchor. BELIEVE. At the same time, you must focus and hold on to your very self. If your family has left you, you still have YOU. Gather yourself, stand up and be strong. You may have lost your house, money, work, cars, but you still have yourself.
Focus on where you want to go. Forget about who you were before, what you were, how much you had, those were gone. Accept that you are starting from scratch. It takes a lot of humility, courage and conviction to start your life again with nothing after having everything.
Starting again especially at a later age is triply challenging. Older people have more ifs and buts. But you must not despair. With your education, skills, talents, experiences, use them all to push you up, to give you a head start. Things may not be the same as before, but take things one step at a time. Don’t try to marathon yourself to success. You might fall again. Just do it slow. You need a job that may not make you rich again, but at least it gives you food on the table, roof over your head, and transportation money, to live decently. Once you got the basics covered, start exploring other opportunities that you think would fit you best.
BE your own man. You don’t need a woman by your side to succeed. By saying that you cannot live without a woman because you just love to be in love, is a sign that you are weak. THAT IS JUST too CORNY. You are better than that. Focus first on uplifting Y O U . A woman can drag you down and distract you from your new goals. Strike that out from your consciousness.
Good luck!
