It’s not hard to tell if your wife, girlfriend, or partner is evil. However, your perspective of things, love for her, and shallow insights can deter you from knowing that you are living with a monstrous disaster. Sometimes she does it in subtle ways or not-so-obvious. You may not be aware of it, but you are being manipulated or controlled— mentally, emotionally, psychologically. You are, in other words, being abused by someone who is psychologically imbalanced, and you may not even be aware of it or is in denial. How sad. How dangerous. Y
You will suffer from emotional distress, depression, and loss of self-esteem, worst, you may lose your sense of purpose and think of ending your stay on earth. You have the power over yourself. Don’t give her the power to control you.
If you are currently living or in a relationship with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself, who tells you that you are a loser, that you are good for nothing, then leave her. She’s better off with someone her kind. If she insults you, embarrasses you, puts you down, hits you with verbal assaults, and even physically bully you, then cries and professes love for you, begs for forgiveness, please rethink, she is clearly manipulating your emotions. She can have many tactics like she will play the victim and make you feel guilty.
If she is always jealous and angry at anyone close to you, and doesn’t allow you to join social activities, then she is trying to isolate you to make it easier for her to put you in a cage she alone holds the key to the padlock.
If she wants to leave you, don’t beg, let her go. If you have kids, it’s going to be tougher because the evil woman will use the kids as her weapon against you. If she does that, then be strong, be ready to miss your kids.
Does she turns every mistake as yours? She will blame you for every petty thing that happens.
Remember, a woman will only manipulate you if you allow her to. If she sensed your weakness, that is an opportunity to control you to stablish her dominance.
Be strong. She is not the end all and be all of your existence. She is not the only purpose why you are on earth. Start a new life WITHOUT HER.
Real life examples:
1. He graduated from Far Eastern University (FEU) in Sampaloc, Manila with a degree in Civil Engineering. He married his classmate (from Batangas) who was so sweet and demure. A year into their marriage, she unmasked herself. She became fierce, a nagger, controlling. Because he thought she was his world, he just absorbed all the verbal and physical assaults. Binabatukan daw sya, minumura, and one time pinukpok sya ng plantsa, buti na lang hindi mainit but he got several stitches. He also showed me several inches-long scar on his left leg. Hiniwa daw ng balisong kasi nag selos. His shoulder is no longer level, kasi daw nabalian sya. Hinampas daw sya ng payong, but nadulas sya when he turned his body to avoid it from hitting his face, he got outbalanced and fell, he suffered a broken shoulder.
2. They own a watch repair shop and have 3 adult sons. He likes to drink every Saturday evening which he justifies as his only relaxation. His wife beats him up every time he comes home drunk. How many times did he end up in the emergency clinic due to his wife’s bites, punches, sipa and pukpok ng martilyo? Marami na.
Where is he now? He passed away several years ago from heart attack.
3. The pretty wife is manipulative but the husband has no clue. He is of the milder demeanor. Years of verbal assaults destroyed his idea of a having a nurturing and loving family. His depression prevented him from seeing the world in a lighter way. She bore him two kids, now ages 7 and 3. She weaponizes their kids to launch verbal assaults on him.
“Dad you’re a loser, you’re insane, go kill yourself” are some of the words being coached by the mom to her 7-year-old daughter to tell her dad. Yes, he did kill himself one day by hanging on a rope. Years of being subjected to this kind of negativity destroyed his total being, thus he saw dying as his only escape from his cruel world.
4. It was love at first sight. She was very pretty and her fair white skin was glistening under the sun when he first laid eyes on her. He was 5 years older, smart, intelligent, and have an enviable job.
He didn’t want to take any chances of losing this snow white girl to some other guy so he married her after a year of dating.
Soon enough, he realized the stark contrast in their personalities. She has below average IQ, maybe due to her lack of education and experience in interacting with the world. He was having difficulty conversing with her even about simple matters. He already noticed this when they were still dating but he thought he could teach her or expose her more. But ten years have passed and their differences grew even bigger. They were always arguing and fighting. He also discovered that the money he entrusted to her was nowhere to be found. She just spent them all. He was confident she would be able to save a good portion of his big monthly income for their retirement only to find out after being married for 30 years that they had no money. He thought of leaving her after ten years of marriage because he felt she was pulling him down instead of him pulling her up. But he felt guilty because they already have three children. He got stuck with her, accepting that this was his fate. At the age of 73, he is now looking for a second job.
5. They were not married because they both have previous marriages that were not annulled. He worked his but off to give her an elevated style of living. High-end spacious condo, two cars, maids, and exclusive school for her two children from her legal husband. She became unhappy when money became scarce. Yelling at him every day asking for more money. He said it was a daily and nightly torture but he felt guilty leaving her.
6. He didn’t know that his wife prepared a birthday dinner with a cake for his birthday. He came home close to midnight. As soon as he entered the door, his wife slapped him left and right and punched his chest. He placed his bag on the table and tried to pacify his wife by profusely apologizing. She would not hear any of it. She was beyond furious accusing him of spending his birthday with some woman. He didn’t notice that his wife took out his gun from a drawer, hit his head which cracked open his forehead. While blood flowed down his face, she continued to hit him on different parts of his upper body. His sister in law and brother in law heard the commotion and joined in the chaos. The came yelling at hm. Verbally assaulting him. They didn’t really liked him for their sister. While he was trying to assure all of them how much he loved his wife and their daughters, his wife gave his balls a hard kick. He passed out.
7. Seldom do men attend parties dominated by women. But sometimes, one or two come along to accompany their spouse. I was once seated with a middle aged guy with a very young and beautiful wife. He looks like someone at least ten years older. He jsut sat down quietly and trying to keep his sanity. I overheard her asking him “so are you buying me that car?” And since our family sells cars, I became interested. I wanted to interject in their conversation, but I just sat there waiting for the next sentence. She followed up by saying “yung Dior bag pina-reserve ko, bayaran mo na.”
Is that an abuse? Maybe not, naki tsismis lang ako how other couples interact.
