The propensity to conjure-up colorful stories is part of a human’s genetic landscape. This is due to our brain’s complex capability to process information based on the signals picked up by our senses.
Every person is equipped with these perceptive qualities. However, some are inept to segregate what could be true and what could be fiction.
When we hear controversial stories, our adrenaline immediately goes on a high gear, we forget our own problems because we simply love to hear that other people are more miserable than us. Nung araw ang tawag dito ay kwentong kutsero, tsismis, gossip at ngayon Scoopy Do.
Also, not every single person has wisdom and restraint. Wisdom is the ability to look at things on a more objective manner. This is mostly brought about by actual experience, knowledge, and usually it comes with age. We often hear older people say “papunta ka pa lang, ako pauwi na” or “marami pa kayong bigas na kakainin’. That means you still need many years of experience before you can have a better judgement or to become wiser.
Wiser people’s analysis of the information they hear go through a more factual, positive process. They are not quick to anger, not quick to jumping into conclusions. They are not judgmental. This is an ideal scenario. However there are those na tumanda na pero walang napagkatandaan. Meaning, parang hindi na nagmature, or baka natural lang talaga na salbahe kaya kahit anong edad, pinag-aralan o kayamanan eh ganun pa rin ang ugali.
Lately, I’ve realized that wisdom doesn’t necessarily come with age. A lot of older people, educated, wealthy, suffer from the same genetic flaw as those that are less experienced and educated. They like to gossip and their capacity to conjure up stories is more advanced. It doesn’t stop their interest to engage in participating in kwentong barbero even if they talk about people known to them, so called friends, associates, acquaintances, siguro kasi in some cases, merong kahalong inggit.
Ibang level naman ang tsismisan ng mga may kaya sa buhay. In this aspect, they are no better than those in lower echelons of society.
We cannot control how other people perceive us. We cannot stop them from talking about people they hardly know and come up with preposterous judgement of a person’s character. They like to gossip and create crazy stories without verifying facts.
Like what I’ve said, nasa buto at bala’t na ng tao ang pagiging tsismoso and tsismosa. Ang pagiging inggitero at inggitera. What they say could be hurtful. What they say could be far from the truth. Try to ignore and focus on your own life and inner self. Those people are not important in your life. You can live without them. If they are supposedly your friends, then strike them out in your list of friends. You don’t need them.
