Couples must blend their lifestyles to live in peaceful harmony. This should not be hard because ideally, living together for many years make the two of you somewhat similar. You subconsciously indirectly influence each other. But of course, one would wish that the things that you assimilate are only the good or the positives. Not bad habits. Not bad lifestyles.
Living with your spouse should make you a better person. The relationship and experiences should ideally influence you in a good way. It must bring out the best in you. But if your relationship brings out the worst in you then that is terrible.
The differences in lifestyles only become more pronounced once you are married. You begin to notice things you didn’t notice before, when you were only dating.
You now notice how messy, cluttered, untidy, or unorganized your spouse is. Or how tidy, how organized, how systematic, how clean and green he or she is. If you are both like that then well and good. but if you are tidy and the other one is not, it shouldn’t be a big problem. It should only be a big compromise from both sides. Two people must be active participants in the compromise agreements. It’s not right to say “accept me for what I am”. That is not right. Adjust, compromise. Adjust, compromise.
Edmund and I did not have the same lifestyles when we first married. We came from different backgrounds, different province, different dialect, different culture, different habits, etc, different in more ways than one. But in due time, he learned to adjust to my ways, and I learned to accept his ways.
No other choice but to adjust to each other if you want to live in a peaceful world otherwise the two of us will not be able to last for ten minutes of being together.
Having the same interests is ideal but people with different lifestyles can also survive and enjoy life.
Adjust, compromise.
After awhile, we become alike in some ways, not in all, but in a few. We begin to enjoy the same things. little things.
Edmund and I are now perfect shopping buddies, of course it didn’t happen overnight.
We’ve now found the right formula, we go to the shopping mall or outlet and decide on the time we would meet up at the restaurant or fastfood. If it’s a mall, usually we only stay for an hour maximum. When we are at the premium outlets, depending on where, we stay for two hours.
He usually buys more items in terms of quantity. I buy fewer items. Men are matipid because they don’t buy handbags.
1. I stayed in the fastfood area while waiting for Edmund to finish his pasalubong shopping. He saw me drinking strawberry banana smoothie when he walked in.
E—“Masarap ba yan?”
A—“Yah, hayan, dyan o”.
He bought a big cup but actually that was the smallest cup they have.
E—“Ehhh, lasang bubble gum”.
2. E—-“Saan tayo kakain? Saan mo gusto?”
A—-“Ang choices ko either buffet, In & Out, …..”
E—-“Ayoko ng buffet”.
3. E—-“Saan tayo kakain? Saan nyo gusto?”
A—-“Anong gusto mong kainin?”
E—-“O, bakit ako pa ang pipili. Ikaw na”.
A—-“Laging akong nagde-defer kung ano ang gusto nyo. Naka default na yung brain ko na kayo na lang ang pumili. Ok lang kung anong gusto nyo, kasi pagpumili ako ayaw mo naman”.
E—–“Kala ko gusto mo Denny’s”.
A—–“Nalimutan ko na. Kasi lagi kong iniisip kung anong gusto nyo”.
Denny’s it is.
(Jan 13, 2020)
Ive been craving for an all American breakfast.
$7.99 was all worth it. The food was delicious.
Denny’s pancakes were so yummy. I shared one piece with Oyen
