Being married for 35 years doesn’t make me a marriage guru but there are a few things that I know could help you manage your relationship. One is knowing when to stop talking.
When both of you are at your boiling point, you, woman, must know when to control your mouth. Don’t keep on talking, Don’t nag. It can really be irritating. And don’t taunt your husband.
We used to have a neighbor in Quezon City, they were temporarily renting a house in our subdivision while they were constructing their house in Valle Verde 4.
One time I chanced upon the wife walking with her son. She opened up to me, a complete stranger, immediately about their fights. She thought I knew. No, I did not, until she told me. She thought we could hear them screaming and yelling. No, our house was two houses away. Medyo malayo na.
She told me her husband beats her up. When they are fighting she would tell him daw “Sige, sige, gusto mo akong suntukin? Sige sige, suntukin mo ako”. When you say things like that, your common sense will tell you what’s coming. Tuk, eh di sapok! Then she would complain that her husband beats her up. I am not saying that’s it’s okay to hit your wife, but what I am saying is it’s not okay to dare your husband.
Men, under no circumstance, that you should sapok your wife. She didn’t marry you so you could physically hurt her. She just wanted love and attention, baka lang mali ang paraan nya to convey her longing.
Pag-inis na inis ka na, just leave the house. Palamig ka muna.
