My professor said Harvard’s college students created a laboratory that can predict how soon or how long couple would stay together. They have all these gadgets they attach to your pulse, etc. They’ll also test your blood pressure.
For fifteen minutes, they’ll make you sit still, relax, and it could be in a park. In a few minutes, they would be able to gather enough data to predict if you and your couple would split in one year, three months, or stay together for three years, etc.
Prof. Shapiro asked the class who’s been married for one month? five months anyone? five years? I raised my right arm “thirty-five years!” He said that didn’t count anymore.
The formula used in determining if couples would end up in divorce is 5+ and 1-
Five positives and one negative. If your ratio is this, then you will stay together, you are happy with each other. If it’s one positive and one negative, that means you are always fighting, and would naturally want to live separately.
Those in between are either less happy or less unhappy.
And what is positive? Compatibility? Love? No. It’s APPRECIATION.
If couples don’t feel appreciated, they become unhappy.
“You know I love you EXCEPT that I wish you have the same waistline as when we were in college”.
“You are a good cook BUT you don’t know how to clean the kitchen”.
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