The Perfect Ninang Sa Kasal

Marose is getting married to her long time boyfriend, Gello, end of September and they want me to be their ninang sa kasal. Ooops.

It’s flattering that these two lovebirds think that I will be the perfect ninang sa kasal.
I am someone daw that they can come for advice. Oo naman. Magaling akong mag-advise. Hindi ko lang sure kung tama.

And what is a perfect ninang ba? What to look for and what not to look for?
These are my criteria:
1. Dapat she is easily accessible and reachable anytime. If you want to see her in person, she must be accommodating. Hindi yung pipila ka pa para makakuha ng appointment. So what does this mean? Dapat get only someone who is really close to you or to your family. Forget politicians, libo-libo ang inaanak nila. Unless he/she is close to your family.
2. She doesn’t have to be rich but don’t get someone naman na naghihikahos sa buhay. Dapat she’s successful in her own right so she can be an inspiration to both of you in terms of financial independence. Huwag yung tipong mangungutang pa sa iyo.
3. Do not get rich individuals so you can brag about ninang nyo yun, or so you can borrow money from her or ask for a job. No. Unless she is very close to your family. But if the purpose is for your own benefit in the future, bad yan.
4. The perfect ninang is someone you can run to for advice, a shoulder to cry on or an inspiration, a model. Kung nag-aaway kayo, both of you can go to her to seek solace and guidance.
5. Get someone who’ll remember you and there’s a chance that you’ll see her again. Not someone who’s only good for a day, your wedding day. Tapos if you bump into her a few months later, she wouldn’t even recognize you because hindi naman talaga kayo close.

In certain cases, it’s an honor to be chosen as ninang sa kasal. But not all the time.

At my age now, one would think that I have been ninang 100 times. But no, I haven’t been a ninang sa kasal even once. Because ayaw ko.

If others couldn’t say no to this kind of situation. I find it hard to say yes. Until now, I haven’t said yes to anyone. I am so bad.

I said no to Marose and I hope she didn’t get offended. But this is me, I really say no to being ninang sa kasal. Hindi ko talaga feel.

I volunteered to be ninang sa binyag but that would be weird. I am too old to be ninang sa binyag or kumpil. Mukha na akong lola.

I like this couple and I think their marriage will be able to stand a chance against today’s negative forces that break-up marriages.

I don’t have to be Marose and Gello’s ninang. They are most welcome to come for advice. I am just a text away.

#wedding