The Wedding Proposal- do’s and don’ts

Frankly speaking, na o o ey yan ako sa mga wedding proposals ngayon. It has become more elaborate, sobrang OA, pang- commercial. In the middle of a lake, sa helicopter, sa Himalayas.

Sino na nga ba yung artista na sa Eiffel Tower pa nag propose? And how many years did their marriage last? Three very long years?

We didn’t have any elaborate proposal. My boyfriend of six years just asked me “o kailan tayo magpapakasal?”
Nasa kotse kami, nasa traffic. Walang paluhod-luhod, walang paluha-luha. Walang yes. I think I didn’t even answer. I didn’t ask him “eh asan yung singsing?”

I’ve heard of many stories of men proposing, she saying no.
True story:
Best Friend—– “Nakapunta na ako sa Town and Country. Tinulungan namin si XX
Ang dami pa naman namin, mga barkada. Inayos namin yung lugar. Ang tagal namin dun. Nag lagay kami ng ilaw, streamer, ang daming pagkain, may guitarist pa.

Best Friend——“Gusto na kasing mag-asawa ni YY. May girlfriend yun eight years tapos binreyk sya. Kaya nitong nagka girlfriend ng bago, ayaw ng patagalin, kasi baka ganun na naman ang mangyari. One year lang nag propose na agad.

Pagtapos nya ibigay yung singsing, umayaw yung babae. Ayaw pala. Hindi pala in love sa kanya.

Oh men, don’t be dumb. What to do first? Here are a few do’s and don’ts.

1. Before you embark on an elaborate and over the top preparations, siguraduhim mo muna na when you propose she would say yes. Never conclude that because she’s your girlfriend, eh she would want to be your wife. Marami ngayong girls they just want to have a boyfriend but to be married? Nope. Not yet.

2. Before you buy a ring, before you go to Dragon Fireworks, make sure you are on the same page. That she’s thinking of settling down— with YOU. Not because you are the current boyfriend means she wants to be married TO YOU. bAKA SHE’s IN love with her friend except that the friend is with someone else. So siguraduhin, para hindi ka mapahiya.

3. Test the waters first. Before you conjure up the most romantic gimmicks, casually ask leading questions to make sure she also wants to get married to you. This would help you eliminate any chance of she saying no. do not sound like you are planning to propose. Example: “Do you think we are compatible, pang-altar ba? O pang sine lang tayo?”

After you’ve ascertained that she would definitely say yes, then remember the following simple things:

4. Don’t tie the ring to a balloon. This is sheer stupidity.

5. Never put the ring in food.

6. Never put the ring in her drink.

7. If you want to give a precious and valuable heirloom ring from your mother or grandmother, include a return policy certificate. Take pictures of the ring on her finger and make her sign the return policy agreement. In case you split, she must return the ring immediately, within one hour.

8. Keep it simple but romantic and sweet. Do not make it over the top, you raise her expectations and it would be difficult to keep up when you become her husband. Think of something nice and unforgettable but not ostentatious.

9. Do not go abroad just to propose (unless you are oozing with money). It won’t have any effect on how your marriage would turn out.

10. I don’t like proposals done in the presence of many people. I don’t find that sweet and romantic. Too public. Although it could be fun.
I think it takes away the real emotions. It becomes for show. In case you miscalculated her and thought she would say yes, and then she says no, if it’s just the two of you and maybe a few close friends, then you will not lose your face.

Note to ladies:
It’s okay to say no but do not embarrass him further by hitting or slapping him.
Just whisper with a smile “anak ka ng tinapa, ayoko pa’ng mag-asawa. Don’t walk out. Stay. Say, you will think about it first.