Our days are highlighted by Oyen’s wedding preparations. My husband once said, “o, meron ka pang isa” referring to Nyke. That after Oyen gets married, he would be next. But maybe not in the immediate future. He’s not even dating. He and his girlfriend from Manila split three years ago and he has not dated or courted anyone after that. Too busy studying is what he says.
My husband told me when Nyke gets married decision making would be easier because all I would have to do is pay. Akin ang lalaki kaya ako daw tiga-bayad sa lahat— venue, food, dresses, etc. I don’t think so. I think it would be more complicated because the bride usually decides and since she’s not my daughter, it could be difficult to make suggestions. At least with Oyen, we can freely discuss it and share our ideas. Pag hindi ko anak, mahirap makialam. Eh baka nga ganun ang mangyari, quiet lang ako, tiga-bayad.
My son said he’s not inclined to have a big wedding BUT, take note, there’s a big BUT. He said it would also depend on what his bride wants. My son is not dating, and from the looks of it, he might, just saying might, end up marrying a foreigner. I don’t know. Maybe Filipino rin. Puro foreigner classmates nya. Ewan. My sister introduced him thru Facebook to a Filipina from California.
After a few weeks, Nyke invited her to lunch. Then they went to a nearby milk tea place.
My son paid for their lunch, but the girl insisted on paying for the milk teas. When I asked my son why he allowed her to pay for the bobba teas, eh kasi daw nakipag-agawan, tapos she gave her credit card to the cashier. The cashier took her card instead.
The girl told my son she should pay for their teas because my son has no job yet because he’s only a student.
I still recall the few days before their scheduled lunch. Since my son had no car, he thought of borrowing a dilapidated Lexus, maybe 15 years old, but in good running condition. Medyo luma na, ay hindi pala medyo, talagang luma na, piing, gurlis-gurlis, body paint is peeling off, mukhang Ay Sus. I suggested that he rents a more presentable and a bit newer car so as not to turn-off the girl. You know, first impression. But at the same time, I told Nyke to rent a simple and a cheaper model, not flashy, so as not to send a wrong signal.
That’s the end of the story. There’s no story because their friendship did not flourish. It ended with the milk tea.
My husband thinks it’s a matter of perception. That the girl probably thinks she has no future with my son. A student who lives in a tiny dorm, no job, no car, she’s probably thinking she might end up feeding this guy.
My sister and my brother in law were excited in the beginning that it could be a good match.
Cute daw yung girl at saka maputi like Nyke. She has a good-paying job and my son is a full-time student. Probably in the girl’s mind, it’s not a good match.
Oh well, it’s not meant to be.
