My mom told me once when I was still in college that poor people always feel api. They always think na agrabyado sila. Lagi silang naaawa sa sarili nila. My mom also said “ikaw ang mas nakaka-angat, ikaw ang umintindi”.
That’s also what I told my children. Sila ang magparaya.
Pero hindi lahat ng pagkakataon. Not all the time.
Paano kung wala naman sa lugar ang pag-iisip nila? Lagi na lang tayo ang iintindi pero minsan hindi naman pwede na lagi na lang natin papasensyahan.
Aabuso naman.
Tulad nitong caretaker namin. Ilang beses ko ng ipinaliwanag sa simpleng salita para mabilis nyang maintindihan pero sarado ang utak. Natanggap nya ang sweldo nya simula nuong December, January and I gave him cash this February. but he was still insisting that he didn’t receive anything.
The remittance slips from Palawan Express Padala plus the exchange of texts between him and our office staff were enough proof that he indeed went to Palawan and received the money.
I told him to go to Palawan so he could verify for himself for his peace of mind. “Nakapunta ka ba sa Palawan express padala? Ano ang sabi nila?”
He answered in bold letters D KUNA PO PNUNTAHAN MAM WLA NA YN, OKY NAPO SKN YN TANGGAP KUNA PO YN.
What does he mean by TANGGAP KUNA? Tanggap na nya that he didn’t receive any money? Eh he got the money nga! Bakit ayaw nya pumunta sa Palawan? That’s not a normal reaction of a person who suspects that someone else took his money. Di ba susugod ka sa Palawan para malaman mo sino kumuha ng pera?
I sent him three more messages trying to convince him to go to Palawan.
“Pumunta ka ngayong umaga sa Palawan para maliwanagan natin kung ano ang nangyari sa sweldo mo. Dahil ang sabi ng Palawan ay natanggap mo daw yung mga pera”.
“Kung ako sa’yo yun ang una kong gagawin. Pupunta ako sa Palawan para mapanatag ang kalooban ng lahat”.
He didn’t reply anymore.
I understand that his mentality is different. I tried to go down to his level of thinking so I could better communicate with him at para hindi rin ako mainis. Para mauna ang pang-intindi, awa, pagpaparaya.
Pero ngayon medyo inis na ako. Three days ago he said he would leave end of this month. I will not stop him from leaving. Mahirap yung sobra syang matampuhin at wala naman sya sa lugar. Problema if he doesn’t want to leave anymore. Pikon na’ko sa kanya.
