What is the definition of true love? How does one know that the love you are feeling is the “true” one. Is it the excitement you feel every moment you think of this person? Is it the giggle and the gigil you feel when you are around this person? When does one declare that the love you have for each other is true love. When you decided to marry this person? to live and spend the rest of your life together?
Many couples fall in love, get married. They walked down the isle with a 110% commitment to love and care for each other for better or for worse. But one day, they just snap out of their love balloon, get sick and tired of each other, curse each other, leave one another. Is it because that they actually made the wrong judgment, that they’re love for each other to begin with was not the one true thing? How does one know?
These are true examples, names changed or else these people would hate me:
1. Dan and his college girlfriend got married, they had 3 kids. Lived a comfortable life. They had priests as their confidantes. Their Jesuit friends said Dan and his wife were soul mates. That they’re marriage was blessed in heaven. One day Dan fell in love with his wife’s best friend. Of course wife took it so badly. They had a bitter annulment proceedings. But in the end, wife loses. Dan now lives happily ever after with his new wife, who also had her previous marriage annulled. Dan said, his new wife is his soul-mate.
I thought his first wife was his soul-mate? I thought the priests said their marriage was blessed in heaven? Does it mean they made a wrong judgment?
2. Myla married a dashing guy from Forbes Park. Myla’s parents were in the construction business and were also affluent but not as wealthy as her husband’s parents. They received a gift of house and lot. They put-up their own trading business located in Quezon City. Myla’s husband showed her around Acropolis Subdivision along E. Rodriguez in Libis. That time the place was newly developed. He told her that they should sell the house his parents gave them so they could use the money to buy in Acropolis. She agreed. So they sold the house. In the meantime, proceeds from the sale were kept in their joint bank account.
One morning, Myla’s husband disappeared. Nagtanan ng babae. He left her without any prior notice. Wala man lang hints or clues. Maybe there were, but since she was so absorbed by their family life, thinking and believing that they have a solid ground, maybe she didn’t see it coming.
Not only did he leave her and their children, he also didn’t leave her with any money. He emptied all their bank accounts. Leaving some P800. Was it because Myla was not his true love? He must have fallen in love real hard for this new girl that he had no second thoughts of abandoning his family. And by the way, Myla was pregnant with their 4th child.
3. Myla moved-on. She became a successful entrepreneur. Her kids were great too. She had an engineer boyfriend for 5 years. He claimed that although he still lived with his wife under one roof, they no longer speak to each other. But what is taking him forever to leave his wife and be with Myla? So Myla gave up her hopes on him. One morning, love struck Myla. She met a handsome guy who seemed so perfect for her. They had a very similar background, so many commonalities. This is it. True Love. She told me they’re soul mates. Not only they’re lovers, but they are best friends. They would eventually get married. The guy was divorced. She had an annulment. Perfect.
After 5 years of ‘SOLID FRIENDSHIP AND ROMANCE”, he dumped her for a girl as young as her daughter.
Myla has now found a husband and is living happily away from the Philippines.
Question: Who was Myla’s true love? Who was her real soul mate?
Is true love measured and tested by the amount of time you’ve spent with your spouse?
Those who celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary, 50th? Did their marriage withstand the test of time because they truly cherish each other? Or they just took their vows seriously, to make pasensya with each other at all times? But actually if shown the exit door they would just dash out?
4. Anthony married a vivacious lady named Elma he met at a trade fair in North Carolina. She was divorced from her teenage sweetheart. He left her for another woman. Anthony swept her off her feet. They were a perfect pair. Always laughing together. More than a couple, they were indeed the best of friends. One day Elma attended a family reunion. After 25 years, she saw her first husband again. Long story short, she is now having an affair with her first husband. Anthony knows about this and accepts that sooner or later, Elma would leave him to reunite with her first husband.
In this case, does it mean Elma never lost her love for his first husband? Is he her real true love and not Anthony? But what about the 10 years of a happy friendship and being “soul mates” with Anthony? Not true love? just friendship?
(to be continued)
I am married for 8 years and my husband suddenly changed. He is quiet at home and dont talk. I ask him what’s the problem and he said no. Then he died of cancer. he was sick and didn’t tell me. I miss him.
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Hi. Cool article. My husband left me after two months married.